Lost In Love: Why Doesn’t He Love Me?

Sometimes, when you tune into the popular media, it may feel like women have it very easy when it comes to love. Unfortunately, while almost half of the world’s population wishes that to be the case, the truth is that women often fall in love with someone who may take absolutely no interest in them. And it’s just as painful.

Unrequited Love: It’s A Tough Game

Why Doesn’t He Love Me - Unrequited Love: It’s A Tough Game

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Now this may be for a variety of reasons. Your object of adoration could already be in a relationship, he could be your boss at work or teacher in college, or he could just see you as one of his friends. (Yes, women get friend zoned too.) The guy may have shown interest in you initially but now acts aloof. Your object of love could even have left you when someone else came along in his life. Hell, sometimes, even if you are in a relationship, your guy could feel very distant and unloving at times.

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No matter what situation you are facing, you may be feeling utterly rejected and dejected. You may be playing conversations and texts in a loop in your mind, trying desperately to figure out what went wrong. Perhaps you made a crucial mistake somewhere? You may not feel like eating or sleeping much. You may feel like an utter mess who is struggling to go to her office or college and smile.

Remember that these feelings are normal when you feel rejected. So instead of dialling the phone and asking him to take you back, just pause. Sit back on your chair. Take a deep breath.

But How Do You Make Him Fall In Love?

If you are facing a dilemma of this sort, and are wondering what you can do to make this guy fall head over heels in love with you, this is the perfect place to be.

The answer is simple: STOP TRYING.

This may feel very counter-intuitive to you right now. But this is the one thing you need to do. Just stop trying to get him or win him. I may sound flippant, but this is the best way. Remember the Jim Carrey movie, Bruce Almighty? Even God does not have the power to make someone fall in love with you.

Think about you as an individual. Think about what are the little things that make you beautiful. You may not have an hourglass figure, but don’t limit your notion of beauty to what you see in the media. Think about all the unique talents you bring into the world. Think about how many people have smiled because you came into this world. Make a list. Do it right now. Seriously. RIGHT NOW. Even if you have to dig really really deep, you will find all the strength and beauty within you.


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Just because one person out there could not see the beauty that lies within you does not mean that you should find yourself unattractive. If he doesn’t love you, this means it is time you love you. Besides, you should not have to work or “win” another person’s love. It will happen as effortlessly as rainfall. It will be as easy as the budding of a flower in spring. Here is a little video by the talented comedian Amy Poehler that is sure to make you feel better.

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What Should I Do Instead?

Well, once you take that decision of letting go and of not seeking approval from the external surroundings, the question arises, what now? What should I do now?

Let me put it this way. There are literally millions of things you can do instead of brooding or obsession over one person. Anything you decide to do would be better than moping around, right? Whether it is that dance class you’ve always wanted to go to, or staring a new blog, or adopting an adorable puppy, only you know the right answer.

If you feel you can’t do this alone, then approach your friends or a therapist for help. Do what makes you happy, even if it is something like watching a chick flick with your best friends or just eating a tub of ice cream at home. The huge world of possibilities is wide open and calling out to you!


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Do what makes your heart sing, what makes you feel good about yourself. Talk to your friends. Most of them would have gone through something similar too. Surround yourself with activities and people that make you feel like the diva you are. Go out there and be the amazing lady you know you are meant to be. Soon, love will come and find you.