4 Helpful Tips To Stop Your Toddler From Whining

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Is your house constantly full of whining sounds, thanks to your toddler? Has your toddler suddenly started whining for no obvious reason? Are you worried it could or has already turned into a habit?

If you too are worried just like most mothers of toddlers are, do not lose heart. Read on to know tips on how to stop your toddler from whining.

Why Does Your Toddler Resort To Whining?

You probably thought your little one’s whining days would be over once she reaches the toddler stage, but you are wrong. Just like your baby cried in the initial weeks and months, she will whine once she becomes a toddler.

Your toddler is at a developmental stage where she is learning a lot of things and beginning to understand emotions. Your toddler may find it still difficult to express herself. She may often find herself unable to assert control over things she wants or make others understand what she wants.

Your toddler needs your help in almost everything she does. She needs your constant attention and time, not to mention your constant love and care too. Often, your toddler may resort to whining simply to get your attention. Your toddler could do it if she feels you are busy with something else and not giving her the attention she wants. In certain situations, she may also feel threatened or insecure and hence can get confused and start to whine.

[ Read: Parenting Tips For Toddlers ]

Tips On How To Stop Your Toddler From Whining:

When your toddler is whining, she is doing it to get what she wants, and not to annoy you. For your toddler, getting what she wants is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it is a very normal approach at her age. Here are a few tips on how to stop toddler whining:

1. Tell Your Toddler What Whining Means:

You may assume your toddler knows the meaning of whining, but more often than not, she will not have a clue.

Instead of telling her to stop whining, tell her what you mean by whining.

Whenever your toddler whines, tell her that what she is doing is whining. Point out the difference between her ‘whining’ voice and her ‘not whining voice.’ Label these as ‘not good voice’ and ‘good voice’ respectively.Each time your toddler uses her good voice, appreciate and applaud her. Tell her ‘yay, you are speaking in your good voice. Clap clap’ and clap for her.

[ Read: Tips To Deal With Your Defiant Toddler ]

2. React In A Logical And Non-Angry Way And Don’t Relent:

Your toddler’s whining is bound to make you angry and irritated, as well as embarrassed in front of others.

Make sure your toddler understands that whining will not work in her favor. It may feel tempting just to do what she wants and get done with the whining. However, remember that giving in to her whining will only strengthen her belief that each time she needs something she should whine.

Tell your toddler that when she whines, it is difficult for you to understand her at all. ‘I am not able to understand what you are saying, please speak in your normal voice.’ Make this your constant approach each time your toddler whines or shows an inclination to start whining. The key here is to maintain a consistent approach that will teach your toddler what is the correct way to talk and what she needs to avoid.

Once your toddler does make the change in tone and resorts to a normal voice, make sure you are attentive to her. Do not ignore her when she expresses herself in her normal voice. Often, you may keep putting off your toddler until she starts whining. Ensure you are attentive to your toddler’s needs or wants at the start, especially when she tries hard not to whine.

[ Read: Anger Management In Toddlers ]

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